Theory: Life is super simple. Eat, breathe, sleep for a few hours every now and then.
Life is not complicated, people are complicated. People have emotions and opinions and random streams of energy or depression. We don't makes sense even to our selves. Guys think girls are the most complicated things on earth, and girls just think that guys are clueless. Everyone has happy moments and sad moments. Times when we love life, and times when we think the world is out to get us. It's tiring having to keep up with who is feeling what and even just trying to figure out what we are feeling and how to deal with it. People are tiring. Some, more than others, but all of confusing just the same.
Why do we humans feel the necessity to view everything on a positive scale? Isn't honesty sometimes more important than "happiness" or "cheer"? Why when you get on airplane, does the stressed and sleep deprived flight attendant wearing the uncomfortable polyester suit always smile and say "Have a great flight"? They always ignore the fact that there is a possibility that you could die. That something might go wrong and you might blow up midair. I think they should say "Welcome on board, sit back and enjoy the flight. You'll probably make it". I mean, isn't that true? The chance of you arriving at your destination safely is VERY high. Is it because people are afraid of the "what ifs' in life? Do we live our lives, held back because of what could happen? How depressing. In that sense, our positive tint on life is probably a negative thing.
If we live our lives in fear of the dangers that could be, won't we miss out of the beautiful bits that could occur, if only we left our fears behind? Life is scary sometimes. Sometimes, things the sun will constantly shine, and sometimes the clouds dwell overhead. Sometimes, things are going to tear your heart in two, and sometimes your heart is going to burst from joy. The more restrictions we put on our ability to be realistic, but still positive and honest (especially with our selves) the more chance we have of living a life of beautiful moments. The best things that happen in life all include taking risks. Stepping off the bus that first day of middle school. Going on your first date. Trusting your friend when they ask to borrow your very favorite possession. Finding love. Making new friends and/or moving to a new place. The things where we have the greatest risk of getting hurt are the things with the greatest reward in the long run. Trusting is complicated. It goes with the whole "people are complicated" thing. As humans, we are amazingly capable of convincing ourselves of things. This can be quite good, or quite awful. We can convince our selves of fears that have no grounding, of potential risks that have a 1 in 1,000,000 chance of coming to fulfillment, and basically all sorts of rubbish. However hard it may be to trust, however hard to release control and just let things unfurl, the benefit is always nothing short of 100 times more beautiful than the initial pain. Even if things don't turn out just as you had thought or planned, lessons were learned and you are one step further on your path.
I've heard it described that we each are on this one road. There are pretty side streets and dark ally ways and all sorts of little paths and trails stemming off from the main road that can distract us. All sort of distractions and false indicators can cause us to get off the main path (the right path) and go down the wrong path. Frankly, I don't like that description of life. I think even the so called "wrong" steps we make are still moving us forward on our path. We can't take steps back. Only forward. We might step forward into mud, or quicksand, but it's forward none the less. Always forward. Each time we trust, each time we put hope in the confusing jumble of emotions and contradictions and beauty that is a human, we take a giant leap forward. Yes, we are complicated beings. Yes believing in someone is scary and frighting beyond belief, but isn't the chance of what could be worth it? Martin Luther King Jr said "All progress is precarious, the solution of one problem brings us face to face with another problem". Walter Anderson said "We are never as vulnerable as when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, we cannot find love or joy in our lives". Are not both truth? Every step forward brings about a whole new set of decisions. But, just the same, if we refuse to step forward, and simply stand in one spot, whether because of stubbornness or fear, we will miss out on the chance finding happiness.
It's confusing. In order to find joy, we have to trust. In order to trust we have to be willing to think about what could be and accept the reality that is a unknown future. In order to live in an unknown future, we have to rely on confusing people for stability. It's a messy theory I have. But then again, so are people.
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